IMITATION IS LEARNING.

My children grew up jumping and climbing over chairs and running from post to pillar. As young as 2 years old, as I can remember, it was always with a run that they would move around the house and they were not even watching Ben Ten nor Tennage Mutant Ninjas( that’s the name abi). If I had kept saying, “stop running, go back and walk from that point, etc”, I would have been dumb now . Instead, I resorted to praying they would not break a bone while on the move.   One time, one of my brothers asked if they did not learn how to walk. It was a good laugh I had replying him. Even as they are growing up and knowing about sports they do outside and inside the house, it has not stopped them.  Grandpa Ezennia always says a good and dedicated physical education instructor will easily notice that their legs are made for sports. My mom, their grandma would sometimes say, “Ada, umu gi a adi ano ofu ebe. Fa na-amaghari ka monkey. Cartoon fa na-ekile di too much (Ada, your kids are restless. They jump like monkeys. The cartoon they watch is too much). Trust me, I will quickly be on the defensive and tell her they only watch Barney and other harmful children shows (that was true until they tasted the forbidden fruit).
I cannot say the particular cartoons that changed their taste from the sing along barney to the ‘do as you watch” shows. I hardlyy let them watch cartoon network especially since they were a lot of hitting and screaming shown these days. So, I choose the ones I bought and when Nickelodeon came on board, I went for it. It was OK until they decided to up their game and more violence was birthed. I found Disney Channel and was elated but the kids’ taste has gone higher and so was their activity level. Now, these channels are not bad at all. The Superman is only trying to fight the bad man and my tennage Ninjas are only trying to save the world. Nicky, Ricky and Dwn((I can’t remember the other name) are only trying to be kids who disobey their parents, cause mischiefs and eventually fight for each other. Hello!!! My kids have not fully understood that they are only make believe, even few adults know so, else, we will not have naked girls walking around the streets in the name of fashion.
I am grown and still growing but I am a mother too. I like the other side of tv where my kids learn to speak excellent English. But excellent English and rudeness and hyperactivity esp in the form of hitting and kicking are not mates. They don’t make sense. So, I started restricting channels.  I found this channel on Star times decoder that shows a 24hour Christian channel just for kids and also bought some DVDs. However, sometimes they would get bored and ask for the restricted channels and I would oblige(to my own detriment). The more they watched, the more they(especially Bobo and K boy) turned my house to a war zone. There was always hitting and kicking all in the name of acting out after their favorite characters .
It got worse when they went for the holidays and grandma bitterly complained again. This time, I had no defense. I was to blame and daddy too. So, I took deliberate steps to monitor what they were watching. First of all, I explained to them why we will cut down on Tv hours and read more. We will still watch tv but will do more educationals, Nat Geo and morally inspired shows and music. They did not find it funny. It was not meant to be. Slowly, we started changing our tv lifestyle and in barely a month, the results are tremendous. This time around, I did not ask for their opinion. A research carried out by American Association of Paediatrics  indicates that media violence can contribute to aggressive behaviours, desensitization to violence, nightmares and fear of being harmed.  I totally agree. There is also an indication that two-thirds of all programming contains violence. That is not a good trend for the leaders of tomorrow.
Learning theorists like Bandura(1962) advocates the need for early training in aggression as “aggression is a behaviour learned through reinforcement and imitation’.
So, I ask you today, “what are you imitating? What is your child imitating? In this journey of life, what/who we imitate matters a lot as a high percentage of what we manifest is a representation of who/what we imitate. I must say that the Nigeria media is on a brink of collapse. I went to buy some CDs the other day and a whole shelf was dedicated to Pornographic movies. It was a bad sight to behold and kids will also walk in and  see such atrocity on display. It is a herculean task to find a Christian cartoon for kids but every other thing that will not add a two penny worth of value to anybody is on sale.  We should wake up and be useful. It is always always about what we imitate.
Presently, I like the peace in my house. My kids are still active but in a good way. Has Kayboy stopped shouting at the top of his voice? No but he is diverting his energy to some other useful things. They will bicker and quarrel because they are siblings and even throw in an occasional fight for now but it is a phase we are passing through. I prefer this nature/nurture  phase . They enjoy the outdoors more now(don’t bother about the dirty clothes). Bobo reads more books now. Bebe is becoming more of a sassy lady more each day and Kasi is ordering my beautiful life about. The Bible stories on DVD is changing their mindsets and helping Kayboy tell me more stories of him and God( he is one kind of a story teller). Life cannot be any better at the moment.

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3 responses to “IMITATION IS LEARNING.

  1. Outstanding and so very true. I have learnt a lot too and promise to put in practice. I only have one fully grown hellion in my household; my lovely Ada (about to be 6), the twin boy is still one in the making while the twin girl is simply an old soul but to be prepared never hurts anybody does it?
    Ada I’m short of words to commend you on the great work your doing through your voice. But I just want to let you know your voice are being heard and they make a great impact on lives.
    The greatest fulfilment is pursuing one’s dream and I can percieve this is your calling love.

    Keep up the good work!

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      Outstanding and so very true. I have learnt a lot too and promise to put in practice. I only have one fully grown hellion (atimes) in my household; my lovely Ada (about to be 6), the twin boy is still one in the making while the twin girl is simply an old soul but to be prepared never hurts anybody does it?
      Ada I’m short of words to commend you on the great work your doing through your voice. But I just want to let you know your voice is being heard and makes a great impact on lives.
      The greatest fulfilment is pursuing one’s dream and I percieve this is your call love.

      Keep up the good work!

      Liked by 1 person

    • Now, you make me want to cry. Thanks. We are better off when we share ideas. Like the boy’s scout , be prepared always. These kids grow so fast and you wonder where the years went. You have inspired me to do more . thanks

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